November 19, 2013

Vol. 7   No. 25

Why Do We Fight?

We fight because, sometimes, we believe we have run out of any other options that will keep us alive.

If you intend to carry a gun, learn to use it well.  But, before you spend a lot of time learning how to shoot, make sure you know that:

  1. What you are learning to do is fight.

  2. Your gun is nothing more than a tool (not always the best one) to help you win the fight.

  3. There is probably a prize for winning the fight - your life or the life of a loved one.  But, there is also a cost.

  4. The prize for winning the fight should be worth more than the cost of the fight, itself; monetary as well as physical cost.

  5. The best action might be to walk away from a fight.

  6. Some emotions are justification for fighting, and some is not.  Know the difference.

    Fear can be justification, Anger can not.  -  Know the difference.

  7. You must be prepared to Stay in the Fight until you win.  Be totally committed to winning.  Second place should never be considered an option.

  8. Fighting is the option that is best reserved for the last resort.

    Remember:  Don't wait too long to use the last resort.  Options have expiration dates - even the last one.

Before you are faced with having to make the decision to fight, have a mental list of things or principles you consider worth fighting for.  List the ones that you consider important enough to cause you to take another person's life.  Be specific.  List them in order of certainty.  Start with Number 1, yourself.  Never lose sight of the fact that you have you be Number 1:

  Willing to take another's life?

For Whom/What

Yes No

Me (my life)


Family members



  X (?)

  etc ... (it's your list, not mine)

Know what options you have available.  Consider all of your options, before the fight begins.

Know also that your personal security depends less on a gun than it does on a lifelong commitment to options, such as:

  1. Avoidance  -  Avoid the fight by staying out of harmís way.  -  He will win who knows when to fight and when not to fight.   [The best way to win is not to have to fight, at all.  -   The Art of War - Sun Tzu]

  2. Deterrence  -  Prevent the fight by realizing the advantages of communication, or even retreat over a less desirable act of violence, and

  3. De-escalation  -  Reduce the level of a dispute by looking for non-violent options before a fight starts.

Increase your options by paying attention to your surroundings (situational awareness).

Practice actions that open more options, such as seeking cover.

Avoid training that teaches shooting as the only option in a situation.

Knowing how to fight is good.  Knowing how to win is better.

Practice, Practice, Practice


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